Time Enough!

That’s it! I have had enough. I mean, how many times can I hear that we don’t have time! Makes me weary. I am spending my days coughing, currently. I don’t know for sure, but if I die of pneumonia or something, do accept my regards and wishes, and my apologies for not doing my duty by life. I mean I don’t know for sure- didn’t have time to visit a doc- but this wheezing and sniffing bit has been going on for a week now; more than my usual welcoming of the winter season. Reason – I didn’t have time to buy a bed. I mean God in heaven must be thinking I had time enough to make this thankless specimen, and she does not have time to try and live!

I remain positive, however. I can barely speak – maybe that’s why I got back to blogging with a vengeance. The coughing has made my onion warmer. I got thinking yesterday, how come we, in this generation, never have time. If you have read even one post here, you’ll know that most of what goes on in my top story, originates in someone’s mouth. I have heard some TV babas ask at the beginning of their spiritual programs, “How are we any different from, let’s say, the worm or the pig? We are born, we live, eat, drink, clean up, we die. What do we do which is so great, which the worm or the pig does not do?” When people have pondered in silence for a minute or so, baba continues to their immense astonishment, “Then why are we so sad, while worms and pigs live their humble life peacefully?!” This generation’s answer to this poignant question would be simple – we don’t have time to live our lives in peace, while the worms and pigs have.

It confounds me to think how they managed time in the earlier days. Byron had time to write 15000 or so lines of decent poetry, besides being in love, in orgies and in intoxication. Shelly, that great man, died at 30! In 30 years, he married twice, eloped once, survived a couple of wars, was an expatriate, wrote multiple volumes of first class poetry, among other things such as taking care of a depressive wife! While Gandhi had time to fight the war of independence and Nehru had time to build a nation, we don’t have time to read the newspaper! When we meet up, we have time either to guzzle on whiskey or talk. We usually vote for guzzling because talking would require thinking and that would mean making time for two things – talking and thinking.

The other day I was out shopping with a colleague, and we could not hear each other due to the blaring music. Of course we cursed the mall managers. To think back, the noise all around is the result of this same lack of time. We want to be busy. Being busy shopping is not enough. We need to be busy with more, for example, listening to some crap music (most of the malls play that brand). Multitasking is in. Breakfast on the go, mobile news feeds, video conferences, we have an alternative to everything, and still kids are in crèches and old people in old age homes and the all pervasive excuse is – we don’t have time! Being a logical, albeit dumb creature, I can’t help contemplate on the inactivity in our techno-savvy lives. We have an easier alternative for everything and yet we are forever finding simpler ways of doing things. People used to write letters in olden days. We thought that took too much time. To improve interaction, we devised the email. Then we devised the mobile and then the sms. Today the popular tool of communication is the missed call- no interaction! What was that word ‘redundant’ all about? Make some time to look it up, will you.

Sir J. M. Barrie says, ‘You must have been warned against letting the golden hours slip by; but some of them are golden only because we let them slip by.’

Guys think. Time alone is timeless. Indulge in it. As we all know, there may not be tomorrow.

I Am Back!

Writing after a long time, this is déjà vu felt backwards. I see myself gingerly clicking here and there, trying to figure out how the blog is made. Being technically imbecilic, it took me almost a fortnight to just type the dreaded url. I wanted to do it alone – why should anyone be witness to my incompetence!

Well, here I am, eight posts in a quick succession and a six month long lull later, once again keyboarding my thoughts. The process started yesterday when I had a discussion with ahem ahem… you know, and we mused upon public and private lives, and opinions. Whether they matter or not and do we lead public or private lives as individuals.

I have said earlier on this blog that we are all voyeurs who love to live in glass houses and very precociously perched ones. Why is the other so important? Why does everything we believe in have to come tumbling down in the face of one stray comment? Somehow I think, this is related to the fact that we are looking for reasons. Every time you think of that third party perpetrated mess up in your life, rethink. How many times have you followed someone’s advice or believed in someone despite yourself. I will bet upon the answer ‘never.’ It is only when we seek that we pick up.

I am carefully dressed each time I go to a boring party while the gang always meets in a pyjama party! The other’s opinion matters only when I am not happy with my own. Then I am on the look out for what others will say, if they wow me, I’ll tell myself, it’s good; if they trash me, then well, I’ll be ready to change till they wow me. Couldn’t care less is the attitude of the confident. I think this is the reason why arrogance is attractive. Real arrogance I’m saying, not the loudness adopted to make oneself heard. Such arrogance is without cause - the result, simply, of being you. The kind Rochesters and Darcys are made up of. My friend once said, “I am here to feel important; whether I deserve it or not, I don’t care.”

Public opinion is like an ocean. One can’t see the rivers. But if each river thought they would anyway be lost to the ocean and so decide against travelling that far, there would never be an ocean. I similarly, have to overflow into the world, otherwise the world might be an ocean, and I would still be empty. The society might be living by the social rules, but each individual action makes up these rules. So let us all do our thing and before we know doing one’s thing will become the new social obligation.

And before you post a comment saying the F word, let me tell you… I am here to write, whether it’s worth reading or not, I DON’T CARE! :D

The World's Cutest Picture

Something in this photo makes me very happy

Roots of Existence

‘Never forget your roots’ is something we have grown up listening to. No matter how high up you reach, always remember where you came from. Humble, down to earth and essentially unquestioning is what the successful man is. I have also heard this time and again; and there was a time I actually believed it. I have always had problems at home. Always, what I said was right, was termed extremely, vulgarly wrong and unthinkable by my parents. I was not a family person and without feelings consequently. As I grew up, I apparently forgot my roots and therefore lost touch with myself.

Myself! What am I? This is the question I asked myself suddenly when I saw this picture- ‘Roots of Existence’, clicked by a dear friend, Sudip Chakraborty. What does it tell us? That roots are all important? No. Not for me at least. When I looked at it, I saw strength and an incompleteness which whispered, 'live'. Then when I walked out and saw a tree, all of a sudden I saw the height which branches reach. Are they connected to their roots, I thought. The branches come from the roots, but they are not connected. Their nourishment is through the roots, but what would happen if the roots don’t let the branches go? We will have only retarded trees growing in on themselves.

I am, what is live in me. And what is live in me is what grows. What grows always grows away from me. Growth backward is redundancy! I would go so far as to say, that the sign of life is the ability to let go. Each point in the branch is live only till the next point is built on it. Then, it is that which is live. I have always been told that the root is what matters. The root is strength for you can cut any amount of the tree, but if the roots are intact, it will survive. No one ever told me that the reason it survives is because it dares to let go- once more. It does not fear the axe, though it knows it exists. That is the strength of the roots. And that is my strength as well. The adaptability which helps me take in new thoughts, new ideas and change.

This is what I am. I am not connected to my roots. I know where I came from, but I don’t hold on to it. I want to let it go. I want to reach out and this does not make me without feelings; on the contrary. Feeling is the desire to reach out. And then I realized why the picture got the first prize; it is because it subtly tells us to dream, to go beyond. The bud would never open if it fears, if it wants to remain humble. The desire to touch the skies is what pushes the tree upward. This is not a down to earth feeling at all- not to me. Trees are proud of themselves that is why they dance; they are confident that is why they grow- they help us with fruit and shade, but in the meanwhile they don’t stop preening.

Dev D- Revelation

Valentine's Day was going waste and with nothing to do, the idle mind replayed a certain take off of one fine evening which changed the course of my life. Shadows from the past preyed and I could not but notice how gloomy life was; what's more it seemed irreversible. Potato chips for lunch and innumerable cups of coffee later a friend called at 7 pm.

"Let"s go for a movie."
"Now!"
"Right Now."
Silence prevailed. I started hearing the sound of the take off once again.

We watched Dev D. The movie ended at 10:30 pm, and we sauntered back home at about 11: 30 pm. The roads were deserted and we were the only two people walking. My high heeled shoes were making a tick tock on the road. I hummed a song from the movie…‘yeh kaisi kaisi aankh micholi khele zindegi…’ We didn't speak a word for quite some time. “Dev bhi aise hi sadko par ghumta tha.” "Thumbs-up hai?.” “Sir Coke.” "Vodka ke saath." Back home, we sat down on the terrace and stared into space. The leisurely winds played around and I hummed.

I have never seen a more imaginative adaptation of a classic in my life. Devdas is not an easy novel to adapt. The basic problem is its irrevocability. Each element of the story is written and fixed at that. 'The moving finger writes; and having writ, moves on…' Deva, Paro, Chardamukhi, they are all doomed. Prisoners of fate. They can wait stoically, like Chandramukhi, fail like Devdas or just reconcile with their lot like Paro. But they can not change it. Nothing can change. The plane took off in the evening. As I saw the airport becoming smaller and smaller, something in me rebelled against all the people in the plane. There was no where to go. "Are you OK?" "Hmm”; "That's the sky." "Hmm"; "See that light? That's the…" "Hmm.", "… so when you…Got it?" "Hmm."

I just had to get out. The loo would be empty.. "…so after the sun has gone down; Where are you going?" "To the loo." I got up and steadied to my feet. Holding the back of the seat, I tried wriggling out. "Didn't you have any other t-shirt?" "Why?" "Try not to wear this one again." "It was a good movie,' my friend said, 'coffee?". "I'll come with you." We started talking about the movie- Abhay Deol's sexy abs and Mahi's passion.

There is a lot of youthful sex in the movie and I personally feel it's a milestone in the history of Indian cinema. Paro sending her nude pics to her Dev, their furtive meetings in the fields and behind doors are all taboo for the screen but equally mundane for the private lives of teens. The brilliant use of contemporary controversies- how Lennie becomes Chanda for example, or the BMW episode- and the new light in which they have been seen justify a low bow to Anurag Kashyap.

Being a student of literature, I had many misgivings when I read Devdas. Why should Paro pay for Dev's indecisiveness with a lifetime of chastity and mothering. Why on the other hand, should Chandramukhi's salvation only be promised and yet never attainable. Kafka's 'Trial' has the protagonist standing at the door of the court. The door-keeper will only tell him that his time has yet not come. And he will also blame him (the protagonist) for being lazy in not making an effort to enter! This existentialism finds its way into the heart of Devdas as well.

These are people who have challenged the door-keeper. Chandramukhi is the one character who ends on the most positive note, because she has the least to lose. She is also the one who dares the least. Paro has loved. She has crossed the threshold of feminine modesty. She will be redeemed only by a lifelong sterility, while fulfilling the properly womanish duty of child rearing. Dev is a man; he can't be punished for loving. But he has questioned. He has dared to tip off the caste balance. His sin is against society. This cannot be forgiven. He must die fighting, like a man. The end is decided. Life is the prelude to that end.

All this changes in Dev D. The dreams they saw in Sharat Chandra’s novel, Paro, Deva and Chandra live to fulfill in Anurag Kashyap’s movie. They are not doomed. It is no longer a pre destined world. Dev D is not a movie. It is art work, and that too of the highest standards. “What’s wrong with being a prostitute?” my friend asked. “Nothing. They too do a job and jobs can be changed.” “Yaar lekin usne pant kahan pahni thi!” Our laughter resounded in the silence of the night.

‘Chaan gaya mujhpe jaadu karke vaari tore jaaun main sadke dhol yaara dhol… man mein mere hunk uthi hai koyal jaise kunk uthi hai dhol yaara dhol…’

Letter of Thanks

As I must have said before in my posts and as the ones who know me know very well, I am not at all religious. In fact, some godly beings have also gone to the extent of calling me an atheist. I disagree with them, but that is beside the point. The point is that I suddenly had this overwhelming realization yesterday that I am one of the luckiest people on earth!

I have been selfish not to thank the loads of people who have been involved in my life, trying to make it blossom and even the others who have tried hard to wither it (my special thanks to these for taking so deep an interest.) But today I have realized I must thank the most important people in my life.

To avoid any unlikely damage to their person, I have decided to keep their names confidential. In case you approve of some of them, I request you to please inquire in confidence their particular names.

Thank you,

You who gave me education, and brought me up. You who taught me to fight to win despite all odds. Who taught me to feel, to cry, to try and to succeed.

You, who were my first friend; I would like to thank you for exploring the hidden places… ahem… of school with me. Thank you for bunking the first class and for flirting with the poor scared little boy in kindergarten.

You who taught me to love dogs; who said they are cute. Who held my trembling hand and put it on the doggu’s head. Thank you for that wonderful feeling when the doggu tongue licked my hand!

You who were the first furry brown doggu to become my friend; the first to give me the doggie nose feel!

You, my four legged messiah, who wagged me through the most difficult times of my life. I hope I have the privilege of bearing you my friend as my son, in my next term. I have not been able to repay you, and I am deeply sorry for having betrayed you.

You who were my first love; who taught me what love could be; who were with me in the innocent pleasures of childhood. Thank you for making me feel beautiful, wanted and strong. Thank you for teaching me that an opportunity lost is never returned. Thank you for teaching me the importance of being earnest.

You who taught me all my music and most of life; thank you for being my mentor, teacher and friend. Thank you for protecting me and yet never making me feel closed. Thank you for letting me know the difference between indulgence and obsession; for being my guiding light. And most of all, thank you for telling me if I dream it, I should do it.

You who taught me the real value of sacrifice; who showed me what love could inspire. Thank you for teaching me that the greatest riches of the earth are the heart. Thank you for showing me the treasure that one gives, and the more one gives the wealthier they become.

You who taught me what bad management could do to a perfectly winning situation. You who showed me what happens when one has everything except courage- and the importance of self respect and belief. Who taught me it is not enough to dream; it is important to make it happen.

You, my Krishna; thank you for showing me what love is, can be and must be. Thank you for teaching me that laughter is shona. Thank you for holding me where the path was most shaky, and for hammering my self confidence back into me. Thank you for helping me revive my belief in god, in myself and in angels; Thank you for being with me in music and in laughter and for showing me that ‘sickness and pain’ are useless times to be considered, because life is not about sickness; it is about music and vibrancy.

You for showing me what patience is; to what extent one can go in love with someone. Thank you for putting up with my stupidity and making it so easy to be different. Thank you for telling me that time does not decide the depth of relationships, feelings do. And thanks for saying, 'It does not matter.'

You who have been with me through thick and thin; thank you for extending to me the best friendship on the face of the planet. I admire you for your courage and innocence. Thank you for accepting me as I am, and finding among my innumerable faults reasons you thought you could love me for.

You who showed me what fear is; how constrained suspicious and miserable a human life can turn into. Thank you for making me feel how privileged I was for being able to smile freely. Thank you for teaching me that the biggest gift to mankind is not money, not education, not technology or food or pleasures or looks. It is a mind; a heart; a soul- without these a king is ultimately a rat in a dark wet dungeon, running from himself, round and round and round... And most of all, thank you for giving me the assurance that I can rise above anything. Thank you for teaching me not to take life’s simple things for granted, because for some people they are at an immeasurable distance.

You, Sri; for showing me that God is everywhere, in any form, you can meet him.

Thank you Almighty, for blessing me with all these wonderful people who have helped me be proud of myself, despite the natural flaws I carried into your pristine world.

Obituary to Myself

I was told by a well-wisher not to publish any poems on my blog. He said they would get stolen! 

One day Mirza Ghalib started missing a poem of his, and went all over the world in search of it. He could not find it. A few days later, all Gahalib’s friends received a letter from him- he had found his poem. They went to his house to find a miserable beggar royally feasting on the choicest delicacies at the great poet’s living room. Ghalib introduced this man to his astounded friends, “This is the man who gave me back my poem. I found him singing it on the street below my window.”

Thank you, anyone who wants to steal any of this. 

Obituary to Myself
Down the way on a deserted path
At the turn lies an upturned stone
Looking at it from a distance
On a little shrub a pink bud grows

I am inspired and I think
What could have been here to mark
Who might have dug so deep
To a couch a stone in soft dark

Beads of sweat roll down my neck
The yellow tells of a wasted life
Yet the unshakable weight sits
Recalling a thousand nights of strife

On a path no one treads
Guarding his territory, the sepoy stands
Signaling a road to nowhere
A prominent land mark on no man’s land

Suddenly the monster oozes blood
I spot among yellow a dab of red
The air smells sweet as the wind blows
Over a red rose on the grave of the dead

I stand still eying the fresh flower
A token of unknown love, untold
Words on an unmarked grave stone
Of an obituary to myself unfold.